My therapist asked me the other day (Monday?)

"Do you think he is breaking the mould?"

"The train wreck mould you talk about"

"oh." I stared at the tiles on the fireplace and listened to the noise in my head.

"I think he will if I let him"

"What do you mean?"

"If I let him be kind to me, he will. If I check myself when I start crazy arguments, if I continue and develop this new skill of recognising and saying why I am upset, then I think he will continue to be nice. I'd like to find a way to accept it, and return it in kind. I'd like not to be a train wreck forever."